I used to be in a great online mastermind, that at one point in time or another, included some of the most famous people on the Internet.
Like Craig Newmark.
Don’t know him? He’s the Craig in Craigslist. And when he was in the group, he mentioned these seven words as being one of his biggest lessons in life. So when I was forwarded this as the subject of an Inc. Magazine article about Craig, it brought back some lovely early 21st century memories.
But I also felt very, very embarrassed. Here’s why.
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Indeed. This is a lesson that I sadly didn’t learn until fairly recently. And no, I wouldn’t say that I’ve fully learned it yet.
This one really hit home for me. My wife and I have been together for nearly 20-years, and long ago, she started jumping the gun to correct herself before I did. Yikes. I stop myself from doing it a lot more than those times that I slip – and thank God, I don’t correct my wife anymore – call that “stupid husband moments.” These days, I find myself talking to the people on the radio and TV when they screw up, and even then, I feel embarrassed that I just let such a little thing get to me.
So thank you for the reminder to stop being a jerk! LOL
I am DYING to tweet Seth Rogen that “often” isn’t pronounced OFF-TEN. He uses that word constantly, and it drives me crazy.
I think you’ll find that both pronunciations are correct, and both are listed in most dictionaries. Saying off-ten is more commonly British, but it’s done either way. So don’t correct Seth when it matters little, as I just corrected you !?!
Mitch, the way it was explained to me was you don’t say LIS-TEN. You say lis-en. I think that if OFTEN (sounding the T) is now listed as correct it’s not because Webster (or whoever) changed anything, but educated people give up trying to correct uneducated people when the latter in their ignorance say it wrong too often. :P
Maybe write Seth to compliment his British pronunciation of OFF-TEN and how cute it is :) That would probably entice him to look it up….and decide for himself if it matters a little, or alot :)
Great advice. Something sometimes I forget to follow.
Every once in awhile I find myself in a debate of sorts around what’s correct and what’s not, and every time so far that entire debate ended fruitless.
I have a friend that tries to correct people with who and whom, and half the time he’s incorrect. He just looks like an ass.
Veleka, I’m with you. I took a voice & diction class my freshman year of college and we were taught that the T is not pronounced in often. It also drives me nuts when people pronounce the G in hanger. :)
Oh my goodness, yes this resonates. I’ve been called on interrupting and talking over people before they are finished talking….I am actually writing this as you are signing off – Do’h! But seriously it stung the way I was called on it over 20 years ago, but it has stuck and I try to catch myself but its an ongoing process, and something that I need to keep in mind when I am with people. Sometimes I win at it, sometimes not so much. But I think, David, if we are working on it we are on the right trajectory!
Kristen, I believe a person’s response depends on the personality of the person you’re correcting. I like to be corrected if I’m doing it wrong. I DO sweat the small stuff, and I’m most comfortable being in the company of others who feel the same way.
Nope. I wouldn’t know about correcting people. Nope. Not me. Never done it. Couldn’t–hold on–my nose is growing larger–it’s touching the screen! Help! ;-)
I agree–even if I take a friendly tone and correct somebody’s grammar or speech, I come off as a grammar Nazi or a jerk. Best to just let it go unless this is in a professional context, like I’m editing or correcting somebody’s paper.
Good post. Thanks!
I’ve spent a lot of time trying to be perfect, and trying to put that on other people. It doesn’t always go over so well. This video resonates with me. Thanks for the video David.
I had a meaningful conversation with the guy I podcast with last week. We were trying to hash out the business side of what has now become a legitimate small business for us. He took us to the next level by landing sponsors and planning out our marketing and I had to then back that up with the appropriate paperwork and make sure we incorporated correctly and filed our taxes. There’s a lot of complexity that goes with that, but it’s not hard to manage it if everyone does their thing.
I found I had to push people constantly and they’d still completely miss the goal, or they wouldn’t feel the same sense of importance that I did and I’d have to check in with them repeatedly. I’m not a strict guy or a continuous critic (of anyone besides myself), so I hated to always be the guy saying, “Hey, I need you to do this” to people. I found myself apologizing to him if I seemed fussy and obsessive.
“You’re not fussy or obsessive, really,” he said. “I think you just want people to come through for you. You need to know they’ll do what they say they do, and you expect them to be able to do it.”
He’s right. Truth to tell, I’d rather not have to do any of it–but if we’re committing to it, well, then I have to make sure we stay committed ’til we’ve done all that we need to.
If it’s truly not important, I’d rather just let people do their thing. If it *is* important, be the driver of everyone’s success.