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Avoid The Struggle Porn

Hey there!

We all yearn for success, and if we’re smart, we try to aim for improving our working lives to get to that successful point.

Often it’s a struggle. And that struggle can be lionized by those who have found their way to a successful station in life.

But sometimes, we get caught up in admiring the struggle. Envying the struggle. Wishing we had some more struggle. I call that “struggle porn.”

Here’s how to avoid it.


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Hope this helps!

David

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9 Responses to Avoid The Struggle Porn

  1. Mike Austin February 19, 2019 at 6:29 am #

    David!
    Thank you for ALL these wonderful vids, but this one hits home! I find myself doing this in a number of areas including my professional VO business. I have done this “Struggle Porn” and didn’t even know it. Also, success, when it comes, I often feel like I am not worthy. Thanks again! Life is a struggle enough without finding it where it doesn’t exist or dealing with it and moving forward and learning. Mike Austin

  2. Sheila Friedman February 19, 2019 at 7:07 am #

    Struggles I accept as commonplace, sure I get disappointed for the moment but I move on. Life is too short to be stuck on pause.

  3. ed waldorph February 19, 2019 at 8:30 am #

    Struggle is endemic to self-made people. Actors might just be the epitome of the class. We all struggle but, to buzz a recent popularism, solopreneurs by nature are all alone.

    Struggle is such a part of the business that those who don’t appear to have suffered are looked upon with suspicion and, indeed, derision. Those responsible for hiring and teaching may eschew those deemed not having “Paid Their Dues.” There may even exist some jealousy or envy.

    So in some way I tend to forgive those who flack their trials and tribulations during their course—but not to those who wallow in a self-indulgent pity party.

  4. Tammy Taylor February 19, 2019 at 9:45 am #

    Happy Day 50, David! Great post. I know SO many people who constantly bitch about what a rough go of it they’ve got, whether in work, or family, or whatever… when if they stopped to think about it, (unless they’re complete narcissists), they would realize that we all struggle. But isn’t it nicer to be around people who talk about the positive aspects of their lives, their successes, their work… I think we all need to know that when we put negative energy out into the world, it’s got to come back to us which then validates our message of constant struggle. Why not choose to embrace the work that it takes to do ANYTHING, and pat yourself on the back for each baby step? Just make the choice. Even if the going gets rough, reach out to your “support team” (we all have one) and they’ll get you back on track.

  5. Andy Colon February 19, 2019 at 11:01 am #

    I accept struggle and overcoming obstacles as part of my journey, but I don’t dwell on them. I also don’t focus on showing the outside world what things I have to go through to get what I have. I feel those things are personal and I prefer to focus on the good things, the successes and my eye on what’s next.

  6. Mindy February 20, 2019 at 2:03 pm #

    Honestly, I use to think that I had to struggle in order to achieve anything I wanted, that it was a given. Slowly I’ve been training myself and reminding myself that it’s not necessary to think this. That really life is suppose to be easier and even fun! what a concept.

    Thanks so much for these videos!
    Mindy

  7. Chris Buckner February 20, 2019 at 7:52 pm #

    Nope. I don’t welcome struggle one bit. Working hard and overcoming obstacles is rewarding, but enjoying the struggle is not for me. Thanks for the video David.

  8. Patricia Napolitano February 22, 2019 at 10:09 pm #

    I don’t enjoy struggle. I tend to think that if I’m struggling I am not ready, or even that I will not make it and so give up.

  9. Brad C. Wilcox March 2, 2019 at 4:59 pm #

    I love this, David, thanks. I have definitely been victim to this way of thinking at times. Being raised to believe that you have to work hard to get anywhere and that life isn’t easy translated to struggle for me. I just finished reading The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle and loved it. He talks about how many of us unconsciously want to suffer and shows how we can let go of that and still be productive. I feel like the idea of “struggle porn” is right in line with that.

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